Self-care for when you're exhausted
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Self-care on an energy budget.

I love reading about self-care and the different things people do to help look after their minds, bodies and souls. I always leave feeling full to the brim with new ideas, over flowing with excitement about all the new fun and calming things I am going to do for myself.

And then, I never do them.

The fact of the matter is, as much as I love colouring, writing, reading, walking, dancing, socialising and all the other things people recommend, I rarely ever have the energy for them. I have so many plans in my head and none of them come to fruition.

It’s a shame really, because when I do have the opportunity to do any one of the above things, I really enjoy myself and I feel so fulfilled. But it takes a lot of mental and physical energy to for me to get there, and I often don’t have a lot to spare.

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Self-care when you're tired

Self-care when you are tired.

If you’re like me and don’t have a lot of spare energy to practice self-care, I am here to share the things I do when I have little to no energy but still need a little bit of self-love in my life.

Keep to a self-care routine.

Face-masks will always be a joy as I can do them in bed! (Even if I have to get up to wash it off)

Okay so this first one is a bit of a cheat because it’s something I don’t always have the energy for myself and has taken a LONG old time to get to where I am now. I do think it’s important though.

I have created a bit of a self-care before bed routine that I try to do daily to look after my skin. Going through the routine is quite tiring, especially when it’s the end of the day and all I want to do is go to sleep. However, the simple fact that it’s a routine that I have gotten used to doing and that’s what makes it easier on limited energy.

It’s not a massive routine. Each night I clean my teeth, wash all the make-up off my face and then moisturise my face. Compared to many people this is nothing, but for me it’s just enough to help me feel clean, relaxed and ready for a new day the next day.

No, I don’t manage to do this 7 days a week. Some weeks it’s only one or two days. But even doing it one day a week is better than none, and that’s what is important to me.

Low energy hobbies.

My latest crochet project. Not sure what it’s gonna be yet but enjoying the journey so far!

These will be different for everyone, as we all have different interests and we all have different spoon usage.

For me, things like reading and colouring just take too much focus for my mind and my eyes. I get tired very easily and end up feeling worse than when I started. It’s a shame, but it’s just part of my M.E that I have to live with, so I have found alternatives that work well for me personally.

I love to knit and crochet, and find I can do this for hours without even realising how long has passed! It doesn’t require a lot of focus once you get into it, and it can be great when you’ve completed a pattern and can see the finished product!

As an alternative to reading I also like to listen to podcasts and audiobooks. My only issue is that I do often fall asleep and have to re-listen to them at another time. Not ideal but still relaxing, and very interesting (depending on what you are listening to). There are so many options out there to choose from. One of my personal favourites is ‘This American Life’ (even though I’m from the UK). I also like anything based on real life crime stories.

As I said, these are my personal hobbies, and they may not apply to you. But it is important to find your own low energy hobby that you can turn to when you are feeling low or bored, to help boost you back up.

Watch your favourite show.

At Friendsfest – possibly the best day of my life…

When I am feeling completely rubbish, the best thing I can do for myself is to put on Friends, or Brooklyn 99, and just zone out.

I love these shows, and even though I can quote nearly every episode I still feel as good watching them now as I did the first time I ever watched them. I watched Friends while revising for my A Levels and it got me through that and many other stressful times since.

There will never be any judgement from me if you just need some time with your favourite show, eating your favourite food. Binge away my friends! (Pun intended entirely).

ASMR and Massage videos.

I’m sure I will probably do a separate blog post about this at some point because it’s helped me an insane amount, but this is something I do every day.

ASMR stands for autonomous sensory meridian response, and basically refers to the automatic triggering of your senses. For example, for me personally, watching someone else have their hair played with makes me feel the same sensation though my body as if someone was playing with my own hair.

Discovering ASMR videos has been amazing for me, now I watch them every night before I go to bed. There are so many different versions out there as there are so many different triggers, and everyone is different. So if you don’t respond to the same things I do then that’s okay, your ASMR trigger is out there!

If you’re interested, my personal favourites are itsblitzzz, gentle whispering and Psychetruth ASMR.

But there are so many more ASMR-tists to choose from! There’s role play, ear massage, sound triggers, full body massage, head massage, hair play and hair brushing (to name a few). The options are endless, the world is your ASMR oyster!

Just lie down.

Eating McDonalds in bed after a hen night. Best way to do it really.

When all else fails, the best thing I can do for myself is to just lie down. The easiest way to practice self-care.

My body feels amazing when lie in bed and finally take all the weight off my limbs. M.E makes my muscles so sore, even when I don’t realise it’s happening. I usually don’t notice until I get into bed and feel the relief of my whole body as I snuggle down.

I also love the feel of the duvet on my skin. I know there are weighted blankets for anxiety (and I really want to try one out), for me even just the weight of my normal duvet is enough to take away the stresses of my daily life.

You don’t need to sleep, you don’t need to do anything. You just need to lie down and feel that relief.

Mental Health Blog Philippa Claire

If you have any other suggestions for self-care with limited energy feel free to drop a comment below. I’d love to hear them!

Peace out xo


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